Emily Teel

writing about all things gastronomical

One Care Package to Rule them All

I had a fear of missing out before FOMO was invented, and I was feeling it acutely as I packed my bags to attend what would be my last summer at sleep-away camp, smack in the middle of high school. 

Going away for a month meant missing out on time with my friends and, while I was never one of the popular kids, I was lucky in my enormous, suburban high school for that to never have mattered.

I was part of a tribe, and my tribe was made up of smart, caring, and creative nerds. The entirety of my social world revolved around the theatre, and that meant that in our group there were singers and dancers, poets and painters. Weekdays after school we built sets and attended rehearsals. Weekends meant trips to the Renaissance Faire (in costume, naturally) or gathering in somebody’s basement or backyard where we strummed guitars and sang songs by The Beatles and Simon and Garfunkel, laughing and rehashing elaborate inside jokes. 

While some may scoff at what was, admittedly, an incredibly wholesome set of hobbies for a group of teenagers, I will say without reservation that the unconditional affirmation I felt within our nerdy little tribe made my teenage years something I look back on fondly. We didn't expect one another to be anything in particular, except excited about something, regardless of whether that something was gaming, Shakespeare, physics, or photography. Within our safe little bubble, we supported one another's idiosyncrasies and we made space for one another's quirks. And yes, we were, and are, quirky. 

I love that my high school boyfriend wrote my yearbook message in runes, for me to decode. I love that the four of us with September birthdays threw the most epic Star Wars themed birthday party imaginable. I love that there were endless games of Magic, The Gathering, and screenings of Monty Python. 

I’m especially grateful to have these memories this week, as my little tribe mourns the loss of one of its members. 

Steve Zapata I best recall as half of a duo. Dallas and Steve dressed in stagehand black every single day of the year. Two avowed geeks cloaked in trench coats, years before The Matrix made them the official misfit uniform. Steve was the quiet one, always ready with a bemused eye roll and a closed mouth smile in the face of Dallas' more outright shenanigans.

Knowing that I was glum to be missing a summer of fun at home in an era when summer camp still meant snail mail, not e-mail, Dallas and Steve promised to write to keep me appraised of the happenings at home.

A few weeks into my time away, I found in the camp mailroom a vacuum cleaner box with my name on it, sent by the only duo in my life mischievous enough to imagine: one care package to rule them all.

Steve and Dallas had clearly made a trip to Costco, or possibly raided the pantries of our collected friends, as the thing was stuffed with assorted contraband junk food. While I'm sure that the high fructose-sweetened and sodium-loaded array was truly impressive, the thing that I remember best was a ziplock bag of homemade flour tortillas. It must have been Dallas' idea to include the 5x8 glossy photo of the two of them together, Men in Black-style, but the tortillas? I'm sure they were the contribution of Steve alone. 

I brought them to the dining hall. My friends and I ate them with butter.

Steve is gone this week. The liver transplant he needed didn’t arrive in time. His departure is reverberating through our community, now largely captured online, and it is comforting to hear that he received the best care, that he knew how he was loved. 

Grief is perhaps the truest thing that any of us can feel, the other side of the coin of caring. I haven't seen Steve in years, but I grieve for the loss of him within the context of our community. I'm grateful to have known, in my high school years, this quiet, genuine, and thoughtful man. I’m grateful for that giant box of junk food, and especially for those soft tortillas.

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